WHEN ONE PARTNER GIVES UP—WHAT YOU CAN DO


It’s Hard When Love Feels One-Sided

Let’s be honest—nothing stings quite like loving someone who’s stopped trying. You notice the silence. The distant look in their eyes. The shift from “us” to “me.”

When one partner begins to emotionally check out of a relationship, the pain can feel unbearable, confusing, and downright lonely.

But the story doesn’t always have to end in heartbreak. Whether the relationship can be salvaged—or not—there are still things you can do.

Real steps. Honest reflection. Healing—whatever direction it takes.


Spotting the Signs They’ve Given Up

Sometimes it’s loud!.

Sometimes it’s quiet!.

But emotional withdrawal has a way of showing up if you’re paying attention.

Here are some red flags:

  • They avoid real conversations.
  • They seem emotionally flat—like a roommate, not a partner.
  • They pull away physically or stop showing affection.
  • Arguments don’t happen—not because things are okay, but because one person just stopped caring.
  • They make plans alone. Or worse—they stop making plans altogether.

This isn’t always about betrayal or a big fight. Sometimes, it’s emotional burnout—slow and invisible until you feel the distance like a wall between you.


Before You React, Take a Breath!

Your first instinct may be to panic, beg, yell, or shut down. But none of that leads to clarity.

The best thing you can do? Pause. Ask yourself where this shift might be coming from?.

  • Have you both been drifting apart without realizing it?
  • Are there lingering wounds that were never fully addressed?
  • Has your partner been carrying silent pain or unmet needs?

Sometimes, it’s not about “fault” at all—but about disconnection that grew quietly over time.


Try a Real Conversation—Not a Confrontation

If your partner hasn’t completely closed off, you might still have room to talk—really talk.

But how you approach that moment matters.

It’s not about forcing them to stay!. It’s about inviting truth to the table!!.

Try this:

  • Pick a calm time when emotions aren’t high.
  • Speak from the heart, not from blame. Use words like, “I’ve been feeling distant from you” instead of “You never care anymore.”
  • Ask questions you’re ready to hear the answers to—like, “Do you still want this relationship?” or “Is something making you feel stuck?”

Even if it’s painful, honesty gives you power. Power to grow, repair, or walk away with peace.


Can the Relationship Be Saved?

Rebuilding a broken connection is possible—but only if both people are willing.

You can’t single-handedly save a marriage or relationship if your partner isn’t emotionally present.

But if they’re still willing to try, start small:

  • Go for therapy—together or separately.
  • Rediscover shared goals and values.
  • Set new relationship boundaries.
  • Learn how to express needs in a healthy way.

Marriage recovery is hard, messy work—but for couples who commit, it can breathe new life into what felt lost.


But What If They’re Really Done?

Sometimes, one partner gives up completely—and no amount of effort, kindness, or patience can pull them back. It’s a heartbreaking truth, but one worth facing.

If your partner says they’re done—or shows it clearly—you owe it to yourself to begin healing.

Holding on to someone who has let go doesn’t make you stronger. Letting go does.

Here’s what you can do:

  • Lean into support—friends, mentors, or therapy.
  • Don’t blame yourself for everything. It takes two.
  • Mourn the dream. Then choose peace.
  • Start rebuilding your life, even if it’s just one day at a time.

Reconnecting in relationships isn’t always with the other person. Sometimes, it’s with yourself.


Reclaiming Yourself Matters Most

Whether your partner comes back or not, this moment is about you. About finding your own grounding again. About remembering who you are outside of them.

Take time to:

  • Reflect on what you’ve learned.
  • Do the things that used to bring you joy.
  • Build boundaries that protect your peace.
  • Remind yourself: you are still worthy of love.

Even if the relationship ends, you don’t have to end with it.


Final Thoughts

When one partner gives up, it may feel like the end of everything.

But sometimes, it’s just the end of pretending.

The end of trying to carry something alone.

It’s okay to grieve.

It’s okay to feel lost.

But don’t stay stuck there!.

Whether you walk forward together or apart, you still have a future. You still have love to give—and receive, and it begins with giving it to yourself first.

Thank you for reading!

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I'm Taiwo O. ADEJIN Marriage therapist and consultant and also Digital consultant. I'm Married with kids # Writing Interests: Focuses on writing books in the Marriage and Relationship niche Has written and published 4 books on Amazon. 1 "Resolving Marital Conflicts for a Harmonious Home" 2 "Emotional Mastery in Marriage (Deep Connection and Communication)" 3 "Unlocking Eternal Passion: The Ultimate Guide to Love and Intimacy in Marriage" 4 "Love After Kids: Keeping Romance Alive in Family Life"

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